Friday, 5 February 2010

The Big Question Oprah's Asking

The big question Oprah's asking on ownTV is:

"Does everybody have an inner voice?"

And her personal answer was:

"I think I know this that everybody has the voice inside them and that the noise of the world will drown out that voice unless you can get quiet enough to let it be heard. And so a part of what I'm here to do is to help people get still enough to hear it for themselves."

I too believe that everyone has an inner voice which can be empowering as well as disempowering and as a life coach I've seen many examples of the latter.

Sometimes the inner voice can be playful as well. I recall a moment in a Pilates class I was teaching. I was sitting with my legs extended in the air in a V-shape. My hands were sliding off my heels and I said out loud that I was losing my grip and instantly my inner voice said "Yep, you do that a lot". But it wasn't in an accusatory or serious manner. It was playful which only made matters worse because then I started to laugh and it's not easy to hold your balance in the position I was in while you're laughing.

I sense though that Oprah's response was centred on our authentic inner voice - the one which can skilfully help us navigate the uncharted waters of our life. And she identified a huge problem which may be even more prevalent in today's ultra modern society than before.

It sometimes feels as though everyone and everything is competing for your attention, so much so that your own voice is drowned out. It doesn't help either when you're rushing around juggling lots of different commitments. It can be a challenge finding that quiet time and stillness in which to really connect with self and have a one-to-one with your inner voice.

Meditation is a powerful tool that you can use to help you re-connect with your inner voice and starting your day with a period of mediation creates a strong foundation for your day.

"Meditation takes you beyond the ego-mind into the silence and stillness of pure consciousness."
Deepak Chopra

I'm sure you've seen scenes from movies where everything but the key character(s) is stripped away as they experience a very intense moment. This technique helps you to really connect with the poignancy of the moment. With meditation you don't need to silence the cacophony of sounds without and within in order to find your inner voice. It's more about your ability to listen to your inner voice by finding the stillness within so you can find your centre no matter what is going on around you.

However, this does take practice and so, if you're just starting to introduce meditation into your daily schedule, it's helpful to initially practice, in a quiet and peaceful environment. Later, as you become more proficient you'll be able to feel calm and controlled regardless of your environment.

"Wherever you go in the midst of movement and activity, carry your stillness within you. Then the chaotic movement around you will never overshadow your access to the reservoir of creativity, the field of pure potentiality."
Deepak Chopra

And again, this is not to say that you shouldn't immerse yourself in peaceful and tranquil environments. Time spent in such environments is restorative to mind, body and spirit.

By learning how to connect with your inner voice you'll gain clarity about your life and you'll find that it's easier to achieve a state of flow where you'll feel calmer and more productive.

However, you also need to master your negative inner voice as well. Although your positive inner voice can be heard through the negative voice, if you're not in control of your negative inner voice it will simply erode your self-confidence and self-esteem and inhibit you achieving your full potential.

Yet, your negative voice is a valid part of you and you can learn much from it as long as you don't allow it to rule the roost, so-to-speak.

So what you need are techniques and strategies to help you control your negative voice and someone who has an arsenal of techniques and strategies that can help you to master your inner voice is Blair Singer.

He is the author of "Little Voice" Mastery: How to Win the War Between Your Ears in 30 Seconds or less and Have an Extraordinary Life".

And he'll be hosting a bookinar on the subject matter of this book starting next week where, among other things, he will be sharing his 21 proven techniques to master your "Little Voice".

There's still time to sign up and what's great about this course is that Blair Singer is allowing participants to have up to 9 accountability partners who will gain access to all of the training materials and who will also receive a copy of Blair Singer's book.

Click the link below to find out more about this 4-module program:

Little Voice Bookinar