Saturday, 5 September 2009

Achieving Success - Defining Success and How You Can Become More Successful

Instead of seeing themselves as successful, many people think of themselves as failures. This is because they go through the goal setting process but don't actually achieve their goals. And when this occurs time and time again they think being successful is beyond their reach.

Part of the problem with this is that people are not working with the proper definition of success. People equate achieving success with goal achievement. However, the two are not necessarily the same.

A key point is that you don't have to have achieved your main goal to be successful. As best-selling author Robert G Allen said:

"You don't have to achieve your goal to be successful. You just need to discover your path. When you're standing on your path and you take one step forward towards your goal you're instantly successful because you're on your path."

And when people don't get this they become frustrated and they often give up on their goal but their real failure is in not recognising and acknowledging any progress they've made towards achieving their goal.

"What makes people excited is progress."
Tony Robbins

When you recognise the progress you've made, no matter how small, and give yourself due credit for that accomplishment, you'll be encouraged to make further progress towards your goal.

And this leads to what is perhaps the best definition of success:

"Success is the progressive realisation of a worthy ideal."
Earl Nightingale

You see, the goal is not the main thing and that's why so many people come a cropper when they simply focus on achieving the goal. It's what you become as a result of striving towards your goal. So yes, you need to keep your goal within your sights but it's also necessary to release a sense of detachment to the outcome and focus each and every day on what you can do to improve yourself so that you're mentally equipped for the tasks ahead and the action steps you need to take to progress towards your goals.

Now it may seem very counterintuitive to have a sense of detachment about your goal but remember:

"If you can dream it, you can do it."
Walt Disney

So people buy a course or perhaps attend a seminar hoping that it will change their lives. And they may even start to implement some of what is taught in that course or seminar but for many, change simply doesn't happen fast enough. It's not instantaneous and so people become discouraged and they give up.

They don't realise that as much as they want to and in some cases need to achieve a particular goal that the goal, in of itself, is not important. The goal is immaterial.

It's all about the process.

It's all about what you experience and learn as you strive towards the goal. And, as you are experiencing and learning new things you are being transformed. In other words, you are evolving into a higher being and this transformation eventually brings you on par with or in resonance with what you are seeking and you achieve your goal.

But people often don't allow themselves to feel the excitement of the progress they make. They don't express their gratitude regarding the progress they make. They are often too busy lamenting their lack of progress. They compare themselves to others. They put themselves down and in doing so they do the exact opposite of what they want to accomplish. They literally push their goal away and they continue to do so or they do so with such intent that they abandon the goal altogether.

So the key is to relax into the process of goal achievement. Keep your main goal in sight but immerse yourself in the small steps that you need to make day-to-day to keep the forward momentum towards your goal.

There will be times when you won't even see the positive effects of the actions you're taking and achieving success may seem like a pipe dream. During those times, take comfort instead in the knowledge that you are consistently taking action and that as David Allen, author of "Ready for Anything, 52 Productivity Principles for Work and Life" said:

"Small things, done consistently, create major impact."

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