Tuesday, 9 September 2008

12 Key Questions to Ask Yourself when Determining Your Values

In a recent teleseminar Dr John Demartini talked about how our values dictate what we achieve in life. But what if you're not even sure what your values are. Well, here are 12 key questions Dr Demartini recommends that you ask yourself to determine exactly what your current values are:

1. How do you fill your space?

2. How do you occupy your time?

3. What do you have energy for?

4. What do you spend your money on?

5. Where are you most disciplined and focused?

6. Where are you most organised and focused?

7. What do you think about most?

8. What do you visualise and dream about?

9. What is your internal dialogue?

10.What do you talk to others about?

11.What are you most inspired by?

12. What are your 3 most consistent long-term goals?

Your answers to these questions should have left you with absolutely no doubts as to what your values are. The next key question is:

"Are your goals in line with your values?"

If the answer to this question is no then you will undoubtedly be feeling a great deal of frustration in your life at this time because you are likely not achieving your goals as you desire.

Once you know your values you can set realistic expectations as to what you can achieve. You see, as Dr Demartini explained we tend to have an "attention surplus" for the things that are congruent with our values and an "attention deficit" regarding the things that are not congruent to our values. Can you see now how knowing what your values are is critical to your success?

"When we set goals that are not congruent with our values we keep procrastinating and hesitating and don't get around to doing it."
Dr John Demartini

When we try to achieve goals that are in conflict with our values we experience frustration, anger and hopelessness. It feels like an uphill battle. When our values and goals are in sync then we are energised when we strive for our goals. What we do may, in reality be tiring and difficult, but we tackle each task with enthusiasm and we often have to force ourselves to take a break.

It's important to remember though that our values are not static. They can shift subtly with the progression of time and as our own lives evolve. Dramatic circumstances in our lives can cause sudden and equally dramatic changes in our values.

Also, whenever you achieve a goal that fulfils a value then your values change. An excellent example of this is Andrew Carnegie. He made a decision to spend the first half of his life earning money and the second half of his life giving it away. He became the richest man in the world and yet was known to be quite frugal. He was often known to repeat a proverb that his mother had taught him:

"Watch the pennies and the pounds will take care of themselves."

One can readily see that after Carnegie had amassed his fortune his values shifted. The earning of money was now no longer a priority and he was able to express more fully his philanthropic nature.

And what he donated money to is also very revealing as to his values. Andrew Carnegie spent much of his fortune on establishing over 2,500 public libraries as well as supporting institutions of higher learning.

Andrew Carnegie's life story is a clear example of what you can accomplish when your values and goals were clearly aligned.

Click the AudioPostcard link below to listen to the interview with Dr John Demartini and,if you're interested in obtaining discounted tickets for any of Dr Demartini's upcoming events in London click on any of the links for more details:

~ Listen to Dr John Demartini Interview

~ Wisdom of Wealth

~ Live and Inspired

~ Demartini Breakthrough Experience

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