Wednesday, 20 February 2008

How to Gain Control Over Your Life and the Level of Success You Achieve in Life

One of the principles of NLP is that of cause and effect. Basically, when you are at "cause" you accept 100% responsibility for everything in your life. When you are at "effect" you essentially believe that life happens to you and that you have limited control.

I personally prefer to be at cause rather than effect. I may not like everything that I am manifesting in my life at any point in time but if I accept that I am responsible for everything in my life it gives me the ability to respond in such a way so as to create a new reality - one more to my liking. Let me give an example.

I was a attending a seminar when one of the participants said something like:

"I am a slow learner because I was bullied as a child."

When I heard this statement I groaned inwardly, especially since the individual prefaced her statement by saying she was an NLP Practitioner. I thought to myself, "You're disregarding the fundamental principles of NLP."

This was an individual was who definitely at effect rather than cause. You see the fact that she was bullied at school cannot be changed. However, saying that this is the cause of her being a slow learner closes the door of opportunity for her to do something about her learning ability. This is because she cannot change the fact that she was bullied as a child. It happened.

Similarly, my guest, Shirley Cheng, for my teleseminar later today "How to Awaken Your Spirit to Live a Life Without Limits" could have said to herself:

"I am a slow learner because I lost years of elementary education."

Shirley suffered crippling rheumatoid arthritis as an infant. However, instead of letting this hold her back, she was determined to catch up as quickly as possible. She went from barely knowing the alphabet to devouring the equivalent of five years of elementary education in 180 days. That's amazing and it was all down to her positive attitude.

Your ATTITUDE in life plays a critical role in what you achieve in life.

"You cannot control what happens to you, but you can control your attitude towards what happens to you, and in that, you will be mastering change rather than allowing it to master you."
Brian Tracy

Isn't that awesome?

I challenge you that there is nothing in your life that you cannot improve right now if you simply change your attitude and take responsibility for your life.

Consider this for a moment. Think of someone who has bought a very posh car. Do you think that person will readily hand the keys of that car to just anyone. No. Yet we so readily relinquish the keys to our life. What is more precious? You can always buy a new car but a new life?

So hold on tight to the keys of your life if you want control over your life and the level of success that you achieve. And remember that being responsible simply means that you are ABLE to REPSOND.

Isn't that empowering?

"We cannot direct the wind but we can adjust the sails."


  1. Robert @ reason4smile2:21 pm

    Hi Nickolove, indeed an interesting article, thanks for sharing.

    "We cannot direct the wind but we can adjust the sails."

    That's so true, responsible with what we have right now, do our best with our sails and do not blame the wind.

    Cheers for our extraordinary lives,

  2. Hi Robert,

    Thanks for stopping by.